My approach to coaching
Most coaching traffics in clichés:
- “Become the best version of yourself.”
- “Rewrite your own narrative.”
- “Set your intention and the universe will respond.”
- “The only limits are the ones you create.”
To which I say, "What ridiculous, self-aggrandizing, individualistic crap."
Your best version of yourself and your worst live in the same body.
Whatever intentions you set, they come up against others'.
We all face real limits on our time, money, and capacity.
In other words, you don't have bootstraps. And if you did, no amount of pulling on them would meaningfully change your life—except, perhaps, a herniated disk from all the straining.
What's true is that you've made it this far. There's a lot you're already great at.
You're smart. You have good ideas. You work hard. You solve problems—maybe better than anyone else in your life or your organization.
But that's just it, isn't it? Despite your best efforts, you're struggling to tread water. The things that have always worked aren't working any more.
You can't go on like this.
That's where I can help.
Who is this for?
- I'm leading my organization through a big transition
- Something has destabilized my team, and I'm the one expected to hold it together
- I have a strong vision, but my people can't see it
- The conversations that matter most are the ones I keep avoiding
- If I could just "something," we'd be there by now
Schedule a conversation
Turning conflict and shame into momentum
So often we get stuck on what I call “the unfavorables”:
- frozen by shame
- burdened by unprocessed grief
- interrupted by broken trust
- overtaken by old coping patterns
You feel like you have to hide these pieces of yourself to keep moving forward.
Nonetheless, it is these parts of ourselves that we need to look at if we want our lives to feel different.
Alone, we'll never “find answers within.”
We find them in deep relationship and loving challenge.
If you had everything you needed, you’d have done it by now, don’t you think?
How we'll work together12-Weeks to Change
We meet every week for twelve weeks. In our sessions, we focus on what's in your way, both for you and for the system you lead. With your permission, I will surface confidential input from the people around you so we know we're working with an accurate picture of how you show up.
What to expect from a coaching relationship
1. Nourishing challenge.
One of the mechanisms that keeps us stuck is shame. So expect to encounter your shame in the course of our work. It won’t be comfortable.
Our container is more what I like to call a "brave space"[1] — a place where discomfort doesn’t mean something’s wrong, but rather that you're right on the edge of breakthrough.
Shame will show up in our work. So will resistance. That’s expected. My job is to help you meet them without collapsing or abandoning yourself.
2.Accountability.
“You'll hold me accountable, right?”
Nope. I won’t check in with you to see if you did your homework on Monday morning.
I expect accountability to come from you.
I'll help you set goals. Big ones. Ideally, you’ll “fail".
And I'll be there to help you metabolize "failure" into greater forward motion. I'm your ally in helping you recognize the ways you avoid accountability; to notice when you drift, rationalize, or self-betray—and ask you to try again.
Stop outsourcing your agency. Own it.
3. Responsibility.
Responsibility: “the ability to respond.”
So much keeps us dull to our capacity to respond.
- shame
- mistrust
- broken trust
- fear
- anxiety
My role as your coach is to help you increase your ability to respond. The truth is that you have a beautiful life and it deserves your attention.
4. Integrity.
From the Latin integer, meaning “whole, complete.”
Integrity carries the idea of disparate parts moving together toward each other to become a larger “whole”.
The real question behind integrity is, “am I who I want to be in the world?”
I’l hold you to live into a robust "yes" to this question.
Outcomes from this type of work:Over time, people I work with often notice shifts like:
- Less internal friction when making decisions
- Greater capacity to stay present in difficult conversations that matter
- Clearer access to what actually matters—beyond urgency, obligation, or role expectations
- Reduced shame and fragmentation—parts of themselves no longer pulling in opposite directions
- More sustainable leadership energy, especially under relational or organizational pressure
- A felt sense of alignment between inner values and outward action
These changes tend to show up gradually and practically—in how you speak, decide, relate, and recover.
Curious what this work feels like in practice?
About CamI’ve never belonged neatly to one world. My development as a coach comes out of an intersection between organizational life and deep emotional work, two environments that rarely speak the same language but need each other desperately.
For more than a decade, I’ve worked with leaders in organizations from Fortune 500 to local non-profits. I've coached hundreds of people navigating politics, leadership tensions, restructures, performance stress, and the subtle pressures that slowly bend you away from yourself. I hold an M.A. in Organization Development & Leadership, and I’ve co-authored books on what helps humans thrive at work.
At the same time, an equally long thread in my life has been devoted to community grief, men’s work, shame resilience, and spiritual practice. I’m trained as a grief tender, certified in shame and courage work, and have spent years in circles where people tell the truth about their lives with a kind of precision and intimacy you rarely see in professional spaces.
The coaching I offer is born from these two lineages: the strategic clarity of OD and the emotional rigor of depth work. I’m not interested in manufacturing breakthroughs or selling a story of self-optimization. My work is softer and more difficult. I help people stay in honest relationship with themselves, especially in the places where they’ve historically split, performed, or gone numb.
Are you ready to take this phase of your life seriously? Schedule a conversation here.
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